Jesus said, “You must love your neighbor in the same way you love yourself.” Sometimes we can forget the second half of this verse. Jesus grouped it into one of the most important commandments!
Loving ourselves entails digging into the deep places of our hearts and tending to all parts of us. This is done through self care.
In pondering this topic of self care, I became aware of the importance of RECEIVING. Receiving means we are accepting a gift. Self care offers us a chance to:
Receiving Rest when you are a go-getter.
Receiving Love in the calloused places of our hearts.
Receiving the Kindness of the Holy Spirit to soften our hardened souls.
Receiving Affirmation from your Creator when we are criticizing our bodies.
Receiving the Truth behind the lies we hold onto.
Receiving rest when we are tired.
Receiving care when we have used up all our resources to care for others.
Receiving Beauty where we have been lost in the to-do list.
So, my friend, how are you loving your self well in this wild and resilience building season? Listen to Wholistic Hearts Podcast today for some tangible ways to take care of your self.
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Part of living holistically is learning to love your self well. One way to do that is through finding a mentor or a coach to speak into your life.
For me when I began working with a Holistic Lifestyle coach, I started to notice the areas in my life which I needed some serious boundaries. I grew up being a people pleaser. It is my default mode. “Don’t rock the boat, Kristin.”
As my coach began to point out the areas where I actually was not practicing loving kindness towards myself. There were a lot of times in my life where I wanted to say no but I would say yes.
My own lack of boundaries and self care was leading to a sneaky underlying resentment and bitterness.
I began to feel sick to my stomach over commitments I made. I could feel the “no” response in my body yet I would say “yes” to this or that commitment.
Through coaching, I learned the word “no” was a gift.
Psalm 16:6 says “The boundary lines of the land have fallen for me in pleasant places…” Boundaries are actually a beautiful thing to grasp!
Through my Spiritual Breakthrough Coaching program, I can help you navigate healthy boundaries.
If you struggle with being over committed or a people pleaser, I’d love to come alongside and coach you!
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I woke up each morning feeling like I was treading water. I felt like I was drowning. My life felt completely overwhelming. My four kids all needed me beyond what I was able to do in my own strength. I felt disconnected from my hard working husband. I felt alone in my anxiety and the loss of who I was.
Rolling into the last month of 2020 is a bit like being on the end of a roller coaster. As a mom, we have all had to become flexible and roll with the upside loops and fast turns and sudden brakes of the coaster. More than ever, our hearts are needing soul care. Our spirits are craving solidarity and steady ground. I’ve compiled a Gift Guide for the Spiritual Mama of 2020. As a follower of Jesus, we are called to rest, which means ultimately we are called to receive. I pray for your heart to RECEIVE the external gifts and ideas for ways to take care of your heart as we round out the monumental page turner of a year- 2020.
I know each year I struggle with what is the best gift to give to my husband. So many options! So many sales! To make your life a little less stressful, Joshua and I decided we would help you out.
GIFTS FOR HER:
A year’s worth of online workouts including yoga, mindfulness, HIIT programs, kickboxing, and the ultimate favorite P90X. I love this gift every year because it gives me the option to workout at home and not have to worry about driving to the gym. They have quick workouts for any level, too. Check out Beachbody Online Demand– $99 for the year.
I love keeping track of my steps- especially now that I work at home on the computer so much more than in the past. So, my favorite tracker is the FitBit Charge.
My all time favorite beanies are from CC Beanies. Keeps that noggin’ warm all winter long. So many cute colors and varieties.
AirPods are a great way to listen to all your favorite podcasts like Wholistic Hearts!
Blankets are my love language, so I am guessing your lady would love this one, too. Bonus: it’s weighted!
GIFTS FOR HIM:
Listen to your favorite worship, news radio, or book throughout the home with the new Echo Dot.
The Firestick is a great gift as you can pick what you’d like to watch through apps on your tv.
I sure am tired of being resilient, being flexible. Life has been full of plot twists and shifts beyond the typical temporary foreseeable future. For most people 2020 has been a season of character development. We are rounding out the year with another round of our world making adjustments to the ever changing pressing need of protecting ourselves from a virus. I have a whole episode in me about the ways to actually take the offense on a healthy immune system vs a defensive position against this covid. But that will be for next time…
This week has been a doozy around here. For those of you who don’t know, I have been homeschooling one of my four kiddos, while the other three were in school via a hybrid system and a full time system. The three school attendees were sent home this week because of a positive covid case in their school and many others who have been exposed. I seriously doubt we have made it almost a year without exposure to someone who has corona. Navigating three students online, one homeschooled, and working on my podcast production business and continuing to build my own business has been tiring. Don’t get me wrong, I am thankful for each thing. All is a gift. We also have been grieving as a family because we have lost two grandparents within three weeks. There is grieving to be had around here, as well.
Yesterday as Joshua and I were walking our Banner Dog, I said, “I’m tired of being resilient. I’m tired of being flexible.” Do you ever feel that way? You just want to sit on the floor and just pout? I sure do. There are days when I feel on top of the world and there are days when I feel like I am standing in the middle of that quote “If you’re dreams don’t scare you, they’re not big enough.” The fear of the unknown, the uncontrollable, the lack of structure really freaks me out. So, I wanted to invite you into my process…when I feel like I just don’t have it in me to be flexible or resilient.
First, I take a quick moment and breathe. I picture my head laying on Father God’s chest and hearing his heart beat. Aligning my own beat to his. My anxious thoughts, my reeling head begins to slow. I focus on the present moment. This is all I have. This moment. How do I lean in and trust and surrender to this moment? I will tell you that in the midst of homeschooling- I’ve never learned this more quickly in my motherhood- be present. Be present. Be present. Use your five senses to help ground you into the moment. AKA mindfulness. And trust that He is in the moment. Even if you don’t feel Him. Then I make a list of the 1 or 2 things I could do the rest of the hour, day, evening that will help push the needle more towards my goals. Then, I thank God. I list out in my journal the things I am grateful He did. And then…I rest. And I give myself validation. It has been a lot. And that’s okay. He is building in me character and perseverance.
That’s a little snippet of my process…and you know how that process developed? Lots of practice! Lots of asking God what works for me. Lots of working through old patterns of thinking with a coach. Lots of digging into WHO I AM, Who He Has created me to be. The most important is the constant going back to Jesus and being real, asking for Him to reveal the Truth, and asking for help along the way.
Resilience is vital to life. My hats to you, Mama, Teachers, Parents who are all developing our character muscle this year. And let’s remember that Jesus has a big hug for those of us who have become weary of the unending flexibility this season has to offer. It’s like endless opportunities of practicing resilience. Jesus said, “Are you weary, carrying a heavy burden? Then come to me. I will refresh your life, for I am your oasis.” Matthew 11:28. We have more of an opportunity than ever to discover the Truth offered here. Do we KNOW this in the core of our being? He didn’t say we would be without trial but He did say, He is an oasis. So, how do you turn to Jesus in the moments of weariness? Do you picture talking to Him? Do you participate in a relational interaction? He is offering refreshment…will you take a drink? Will you accept the invitation to meet with Him? He is our oxygen. He is the reason and the explanation when people ask me all the time, “How do you do it all?”
If you don’t know how to do that, let me help you! I’d love to coach you in this process. Visit my coaching page and check it out.
Some of the most common comments I get from people when they see our big family or hear we have four kids is “I don’t know how you do it all!” I get it. It comes from a place of them trying to wrap their head around all the moving parts. And today, I’d love to share with you the tips and tricks I have found to be most helpful in trying to set up our week successfully.